Couples/Family Therapy

“There’s no ‘good guys or bad guys’ in relationships, there are good reasons why we behave and act the way we do. The key is to find the underlying reasons behind those behaviors” – Dr. Thomas Young

In couples therapy, a significant focus is on the interaction between the couple. When working with couples and families, the most recurrent theme is ‘miscommunication’. Although this may seem over simplified, there are myriad consequences:

Some basic tools for couples:

-Empathy, compassion, understanding and respect are the cornerstones of all positive interactions.
-Listen to your partner/family member; try to understand the way they see a situation before you make any assumptions or take anything personally.
-There are no “good guys” or “bad guys” in relationships. There are good reasons why we behave as we do. The key to a better relationship is to find and understand those reasons.
-One goal is to create a secure connection so that your relationship is a safe haven where both of you feel accepted, understood and comforted.
-Learn to process conflicts by softening negative feelings through affirmations, for example, “I really want to make this work, I love you, let’s find a way together”.

Watch the video below to hear Dr. Young talk about the difference between individual and couples/ family therapy and how our focus changes when dealing with each issue.